childless but not lifeless

I believe women do a disservice to other women and young girls.  If you do not have children people look down on you and pity you and treat you like less than a woman.  They are super woman because they do it all.  If you cant have them they expect you to stay sad and bitter.  If you just choose not to have them they make you feel selfish.  Truth is not having kids is wonderful, you have less stress, you only have yourself to take care of and your husband if you're married, you dont have to worry about so much.  You have plenty of time to recharge your batteries and have hobbies and spend time doing what you like to do.  yes having kids is great I applaud and am happy for anyone who has one but my life isnt ending because I dont have one so dont get mad at me when I sleep in when I get to go places at 1 am in the morning and try to treat me like I dont know anything.  I have a nephew whos my whole world I get to see everything he grows into and does and its just as rewarding without the deep fears that come with it.  I am not a child hater I have helped raise many kids and sacrificed a huge part of my life taking care of kids, but I am enjoying my me time now more than ever.  I have got to love so many kids as my own as where some moms only focus on the 1,2 or 3 they have.  I cant tell you how many kids ive babysat and spent time with and my money on doing fun things.  I am at a point in my life where I feel complete and happy and there are not many other people who are in my position or at least not any that I can talk with.  Infertility changed my life but I wouldnt have it any other way! If by some miracle i ever had a child that would be great I would adapt and change and sacrifice but as for now I dont want to!  :D I just want to focus on myself and continue taking advantage of all my freedom.  My wish is that people would just let nature take its course and not waste so much time "trying" or hurting over not having childrent.  Look at all the positives and all the things you can do.  Once you have a child you can never go back so enjoy it while you can and if its ment to be it will be.  I wish i could meet one person who has been where ive been but also overcame it with happiness like I have.